Phillee had spent most of her adult life on Earth, but she did make a point of visiting her species' homeworld once.
She learned something then -- a Nemean would never fit in 'back home'. It wasn't just the jokes about colonists that every home system seemed to accumulate. Nor was it the expected difference in dress or cuisine or accent. It was the fact Nemea was one of the 'mixed' colonies. Nemean Starsailors were different. They were 'twitchy' as they mimicked human facial and body language without thinking about it, or 'talked' with their hands along with their voices. They spoke in circles and riddles, never saying what they meant. They were clumsy in water, used to walking on land.
Starsailors may embrace diversity, but that never meant they treated the alien as if it were the mundane. She could always see, even without snooping with psionics, when someone had noticed something off about her, or when they figured out where she was from. Phillee much preferred Earth, where at least she was expected to be alien.